v2.0 — Evolved through 300+ GEP cycles

Understand Each Other
Not Just Hear Each Other

An AI-powered relationship counseling skill with 13 evidence-based psychological frameworks, designed for any coding agent to help couples resolve conflicts.

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13
Frameworks
4
Protocols
2
Languages
300+
Evolution Cycles
Psychological Frameworks
13 Evidence-Based Lenses

Each framework provides a unique angle for understanding couple dynamics. The AI selects and combines the most relevant ones for each situation.

CORE 01
Attachment Theory
Bowlby & Ainsworth
Understand pursue-withdraw dynamics through secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles.
Core
CORE 02
Gottman Method
John Gottman
Four Horsemen diagnosis with targeted antidotes and repair attempts.
Core
CORE 03
Psychoanalytic
Freud, Jung
Transference, projection, shadow work, and repetition compulsion.
Core
CORE 04
CBT for Couples
Aaron Beck
10 cognitive distortions in relationships with behavioral experiments.
Core
CORE 05
Nonviolent Communication
Marshall Rosenberg
Observation, Feeling, Need, Request. Transform blame into dialogue.
Core
CORE 06
Gender Psychology
Deborah Tannen
Bridge communication gaps: report vs. rapport, fix vs. feel.
Core
CORE 07
Metacognition
Systems Thinking
Double-loop learning, systems thinking, dialectical thinking.
Core
DEEP 08
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Sue Johnson
De-escalation, 'Hold Me Tight' conversations, A.R.E.
Deep
DEEP 09
DBT Skills
Marsha Linehan
Mindfulness, TIPP, emotion regulation, DEAR MAN.
Deep
DEEP 10
Polyvagal Theory
Stephen Porges
Nervous system states, co-regulation, and neuroception.
Deep
DEEP 11
Internal Family Systems
Richard Schwartz
Parts work: Self, Managers, Firefighters, Exiles.
Deep
DEEP 12
Imago Therapy
Harville Hendrix
Mirror/Validate/Empathize. The Imago match.
Deep
DEEP 13
Somatic Awareness
Body Intelligence
The body knows first. Body scan, pendulation, somatic triggers.
Deep
Intervention Protocols
4 Step-by-Step Protocols

Concrete, actionable intervention sequences for AI agents.

1
Conflict Resolution
5 phases: Pause, Listen, Analyze, Bridge, Repair.
2
Emotional Repair
7 steps: Acknowledge, Validate, Responsibility, Amends.
3
Perspective Shift
6 exercises: Iceberg, Letter Exchange, Time Machine.
4
Advanced Metacognition
6-layer reasoning, 7-lens analysis, error correction.
Get Started
Load It Into Any AI Agent
# Clone the skill
git clone https://github.com/pajamadot/love-skill.git

# Load the full methodology into your AI agent
node index.js show

# View all 13 frameworks
node index.js frameworks

# View all 4 protocols
node index.js protocols

# JSON output for programmatic agent consumption
node index.js analyze

# Run continuous evolution via EvoMap
npm run evolve:innovate
How It Works
Dual-Perspective Analysis
1

Intake & Mapping

Maps each partner's position, needs, and attachment signals.

2

Pattern Detection

Identifies Four Horsemen, attachment dance, and circular dynamics.

3

Framework Selection

Selects the best-fit framework combination for this situation.

4

Actionable Guidance

Specific behavioral recommendations for each partner.

5

Metacognitive Reflection

Helps the couple develop self-resolution capacity.

Start Helping Couples Today

Load the skill into your AI agent and transform how couples navigate conflict.

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